The idea of "coaching" when it comes to leadership, and even more specifically within small group ministry, is getting a lot of buzz and conversation these days. At CCC, we believe strongly in the value of coaching our leaders, so much so, that we created our own Coaching Training Manual (see the list on the left to download it FREE!)
We're going to examine the core of the coaching concept over the next several entries, by tackling what we think are the 6 Essential Coaching Questions.
So let's dive right in with the first one: How Are You?
Now I realize this may sound so basic and obvious and even trivial, that you wonder why we'd even mention it. But it's actually extremely valuable and often overlooked. If a coaching meeting with a leader skips this one and starts by jumping right into "task" and "ministry", it can limit the effectiveness of the coaching relationship.
Relational development is the core of coaching out of which everything else will grow. As we invest relationally with leaders, we are given an entry point into their lives – and that is what we as coaches are to be most concerned about – the leader’s life. Not only are we called to help leaders with the task of their ministry, but we also can encourage them to be effective in every aspect of their lives. RPMS provide a way to easily remember the areas of a leader’s life that we want to touch on as a coach. Just as we check the RPMs on a car to see how well it is running, we can check the RPMS on our selves and our leaders to see if all is in balance. RPMS stands for Relational, Physical, Mental and Spiritual.
You don't have to ask about every one of these every single time, but seeing how they are doing in their relationships, in taking care of themselves, in learning and growing mentally, and in their personal spiritual development.
This simple question can go a long way toward developing the relationship part of your "coaching relationship"! Stay tuned for Question #2....
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